Questions & Answers About Life Part 3

The following are questions submitted in a recent webinar I held in October titled "Master Your Reality". Each week a few new questions and responses from the event will be posted.

QUESTION: Why is it so easy to help others in their situation but, we don't see or are mystified by our own situations?

RESPONSE: To see the truth or the solution in your own self you have to be good and ready. Also, once you see it, it makes it harder to avoid change. Change is the very thing that the ego often fights against. We hold tight to our stories even though many times they contain plenty of suffering. We do so because the fear of the unknown is perceived to be worse then the current suffering. Even though ironically it is what eventually liberates us from our suffering.

It feels good to offer another the truth when we see it clearly. However, for ourselves it has to be when we are finally and completely ready.


QUESTION: Is it Ok to feel pain and disappointment in life as long as you don't make it apart of you?

RESPONSE: It’s not about being ok or not ok, rather it’s about what you desire to experience. If you would rather feel pleasure, joy and peace then yes, when you feel these negative feelings or they begin to creep up look to discover the thoughts or beliefs behind the feelings that support them and look to change them. This is how these feelings become less of a part of you and your story.

Challenge the "automatic" thoughts that sponsor any negative feelings you have and you will find the true source of your disharmony. These are the lies that have been lived out as truths in your life. The question to ask yourself is “Do these thoughts serve me now based on what I desire to experience?” If not, continue to challenge and change them into the thoughts that will support you on your creative journey.


QUESTION: How do you balance the desire to give to others ie, friends, family, clients,.... with your own necessity to take care of your own responsibilities, how do you learn to work smarter rather than harder?

RESPONSE: You can only do what you can do. The key is to make sure that at the end of the day you are content and happy knowing you have always done you best - for that day. To carry any burden of regret is counterproductive to your next day. Working smarter is about being in the most balanced and clear state of mind so that a more creative and powerful energy can flow out of you. If you feel you need to be everything to everyone else it is because you have not come to love and acceptance with who you are regardless of what you do for others.

Ironically coming to this beautiful state allows you to be just that for everybody. No matter what the key is to always know that for this moment you are good enough :-)

Questions & Answers About Life Part 1

The following are questions submitted in a recent webinar I held in October titled "Master Your Reality". Each week a few new questions and responses from the event will be posted.

QUESTION: how do we make sure we don't let self-love and self-awareness cross the line into selfishness and egotistic behavior?

RESPONSE: By understanding the distinct difference in the two. Serving oneself as a way to run from a negative state of mind is egotistic behavior and is temporary. Serving oneself as a way to liberate the cause of a negative state of mind through self-awareness and understanding, lasts forever and leads to unconditional love of the self and others. Egotistic behavior is behavior that serves the self at the expense of others. Practicing self-awareness and self-love is behavior that serves the self-leading to the benefit of all others.

Egotistic and selfish behavior comes from the need to feel better about yourself as it relates to other people. Self-awareness brings you to self-love through the realization that there is no better or worse but that all people are equal and perfect as is. Since the work of the ego diminishes through self-awareness, selfishness as a concept dissolves as well because there is no longer a purpose for it. Through self-love he opposite actually occurs where helping and sharing with others when needed or asked becomes an automatic response. You realize through awareness of the self that nothing can ever truly be lost or taken away from you which is a very liberating way to live. In the fear dominated ego mind you fear that everything can be taken away and you work hard and often times selfishly to protect your age, money, beauty, image, possessions, status, rank, power, etc… A futile and energy draining cycle.

QUESTION: Other then meditation, what are some ways to balance and center ourselves day to day?

RESPONSE: Focus on all you do have and all you have to be grateful for rather than what you think you do not have. Realize that all the context of the experience of life is a choice made by you and how you choose to interpret it in each moment.

Come to know and love the perfection that you are in this moment and the perfection for everything that is occurring in your life. Remember, it is not happening TO you but rather FOR you. Challenge the purpose of these occurrences until you come to love the rest of the world for the moment by moment perfection that it is…after all, it’s all there to support you on your never-ending journey……

QUESTION: Once we recognize our reality for what it really is, what is the next step?

RESPONSE: The next step is the same as it was before your discovery, you choose. Except this time you are creating with the knowledge and understanding of your unlimited ability to create life as you desire it to be. In addition to this you are creating from a new level of unconditional love for yourself and the world around you. Therefore, what you create generally alines with "serving" others in some way on the path to the same powerful & liberating understanding :-)

More coming soon...