Questions and Answers About Life Part 4

The following are questions submitted in a recent webinar I held in October titled "Master Your Reality". Each week a few new questions and responses from the event will be posted.

QUESTION: Why is it that some days you feel peaceful and happy. Then the next day even when trying to stay positive and it seems like the universe is against you and you cannot get ahead?

RESPONSE: Peace and happiness stem from acceptance and faith. This is a faith and understanding in your ability to be and experience anything you set your mind towards. On good days you know the limitless possibility that is always in front of you and you are working towards the manifestation of that possibility which breeds hope.

A negative mindset stems from and idea of personal imperfection, denial, resistance and a limited view on what is possible; the loss of hope. Things happen to us each day to reveal the truth to us and it is up to each one of us as to how we choose to experience and react to these “happenings”. We can see them as setbacks or we can have faith that they are part of the larger learning experience we are on to get to where we said we ultimately wanted to go in life.

Life is not a straight line. There is and ebb and a flow to it. The greater your awareness of the true nature of all things the more you flow and the less you ebb. And when you do ebb you are able to pull yourself out in a much shorter experience of time. In the down moments remember all you do have and all that is yet to come for you because you have always been worth it. This is “will” check time (kind of like gut check time). How badly do you desire to experience the life you dream about big or small. There are perceived obstacles to every path, however it will be your will, desire and the realization of your birthright for joy and peace that sees you through to many more peaceful days.


QUESTION: Some teachers very strongly suggest that we come to peace with the fact that there is a greater master plan at work in all our lives and once we release our need to control the outcome of the events in our lives then we will find ourselves at peace. On the other hand, many others teach that we are here to create our own realities. I believe these two can co-exist but I haven't yet figured out exactly how. What are your thoughts on this, Howard?

RESPONSE: Both ideas clearly understood are a powerful combination. Since everything we do ultimately is for our perceived survival, when we realize that our survival is never in doubt we are free to create without limits and expectations, putting us in the most powerful and liberating state of mind in existence.

The master plan is infinite life and limitless creativity. So it is not about losing your desire for the creation and outcome you wish for, it is about realizing you don’t NEED the outcome to happen to survive. By releasing your need you create from a state of unconditional love. Nothing is more powerful than this energy of thought. Control comes from need. Need comes from fear. Fear comes from the desire to survive. When you create without the need to control the outcome because you have come to an understanding and faith in the ultimate outcome, your creativity and experiences will know no limit. There will be no end to your joy.

QUESTION: How does one learn to control ones appetites and addictions?

RESPONSE: Control indicates forced action. Forced action is draining and usually doesn’t last. The question you may want to ask is how does one transcend addiction? Addiction is a means to an end that never comes, hence the addiction. To transcend it you will need to find the beliefs you hold that cause your normal state of mind (without the addictive property) to become so negative that you crave relief. This discovery will take a will and desire for real change and will lead you down a path of deep self-inquiry and awareness. With a consistent dedication for your desired reality these poisonous beliefs will ultimately be discovered, dissolved and replaced by new ones that empower you in a way where there is no more addiction because there is no longer a poor state of mind that you seek relief from.


QUESTION: Are we supposed to choose who we want to be? Or do we just reveal who we truly are already?

RESPONSE: Both - Through the process of self-awareness we reveal more of who we really are, which empowers us to be even more limitless as we create who and what we choose to be, which reveals more of who we really are, which empowers us to be even more limitless as we create who and what we choose to be, which reveals more of who we really are, which empowers us to be even more limitless as we create who and what we choose to be……………….

Questions & Answers About Life Part 3

The following are questions submitted in a recent webinar I held in October titled "Master Your Reality". Each week a few new questions and responses from the event will be posted.

QUESTION: Why is it so easy to help others in their situation but, we don't see or are mystified by our own situations?

RESPONSE: To see the truth or the solution in your own self you have to be good and ready. Also, once you see it, it makes it harder to avoid change. Change is the very thing that the ego often fights against. We hold tight to our stories even though many times they contain plenty of suffering. We do so because the fear of the unknown is perceived to be worse then the current suffering. Even though ironically it is what eventually liberates us from our suffering.

It feels good to offer another the truth when we see it clearly. However, for ourselves it has to be when we are finally and completely ready.


QUESTION: Is it Ok to feel pain and disappointment in life as long as you don't make it apart of you?

RESPONSE: It’s not about being ok or not ok, rather it’s about what you desire to experience. If you would rather feel pleasure, joy and peace then yes, when you feel these negative feelings or they begin to creep up look to discover the thoughts or beliefs behind the feelings that support them and look to change them. This is how these feelings become less of a part of you and your story.

Challenge the "automatic" thoughts that sponsor any negative feelings you have and you will find the true source of your disharmony. These are the lies that have been lived out as truths in your life. The question to ask yourself is “Do these thoughts serve me now based on what I desire to experience?” If not, continue to challenge and change them into the thoughts that will support you on your creative journey.


QUESTION: How do you balance the desire to give to others ie, friends, family, clients,.... with your own necessity to take care of your own responsibilities, how do you learn to work smarter rather than harder?

RESPONSE: You can only do what you can do. The key is to make sure that at the end of the day you are content and happy knowing you have always done you best - for that day. To carry any burden of regret is counterproductive to your next day. Working smarter is about being in the most balanced and clear state of mind so that a more creative and powerful energy can flow out of you. If you feel you need to be everything to everyone else it is because you have not come to love and acceptance with who you are regardless of what you do for others.

Ironically coming to this beautiful state allows you to be just that for everybody. No matter what the key is to always know that for this moment you are good enough :-)

Questions & Answers About Life Part 2

The following are questions submitted in a recent webinar I held in October titled "Master Your Reality". Each week a few new questions and responses from the event will be posted.

QUESTION: How can I accept that everything happens for a reason when I am at my breaking point while I am going through the process?

RESPONSE: You do not have to accept this. You can choose to see nothing but randomness or bad luck but it will bring you no closer to a solution for your perceived problems. Accepting that things are happening for a reason gives you the chance to discover where the reality before you is coming from.

Accepting that there is a purpose puts you in the path to find it, resolve it and hence change your reality so you no longer feel like you are at a breaking point. Acceptance IS the beginning of the pathway to change.

QUESTION: Can you please talk more about how the universe is a giant mirror? What does that mean for our behavior and the way we think? How do we use this knowledge to our advantage?

RESPONSE: What you believe is true is mirrored in the way you act. The universe reflects you actions back to you by what you experience from these thoughts and actions. When what you believe is not in sync with the reality you experience, you are confronted with this truth. Often times this is in painful ways. The purpose of the disharmony is to nudge you closer and closer to collective truth. When what you believe is in harmony with reality, you experience total peace and fulfillment.

They way this knowledge can be used is how it allows you to be more aware of who you really are leading you to become a very powerful creator of your reality.

QUESTION: What do you do when your practicing these techniques and are suddenly stuck a serious emotional blow? How do you bounce back?

RESPONSE: You realize that you have overcome it ALL and that you are overcoming it ALL and that you will overcome it ALL.

Emotional blows reveal attachments to the things in your outer world. The key is to enjoy and cherish those things while realizing that who you are at your very essence is always beyond the need for them. This allows for the most sacred and fulfilling experience of these things while you are experiencing them.

When something seemingly devastating occurs the question to ask yourself is “Who do I want to be in relationship to this event.” Am I going to curl up in a ball forever or am I going to get up, dust off and choose to live life fully. The choice is always yours and it will determine not only the quality of your experience of life but what you create within it. The power over "time" is always with you.

Questions & Answers About Life Part 1

The following are questions submitted in a recent webinar I held in October titled "Master Your Reality". Each week a few new questions and responses from the event will be posted.

QUESTION: how do we make sure we don't let self-love and self-awareness cross the line into selfishness and egotistic behavior?

RESPONSE: By understanding the distinct difference in the two. Serving oneself as a way to run from a negative state of mind is egotistic behavior and is temporary. Serving oneself as a way to liberate the cause of a negative state of mind through self-awareness and understanding, lasts forever and leads to unconditional love of the self and others. Egotistic behavior is behavior that serves the self at the expense of others. Practicing self-awareness and self-love is behavior that serves the self-leading to the benefit of all others.

Egotistic and selfish behavior comes from the need to feel better about yourself as it relates to other people. Self-awareness brings you to self-love through the realization that there is no better or worse but that all people are equal and perfect as is. Since the work of the ego diminishes through self-awareness, selfishness as a concept dissolves as well because there is no longer a purpose for it. Through self-love he opposite actually occurs where helping and sharing with others when needed or asked becomes an automatic response. You realize through awareness of the self that nothing can ever truly be lost or taken away from you which is a very liberating way to live. In the fear dominated ego mind you fear that everything can be taken away and you work hard and often times selfishly to protect your age, money, beauty, image, possessions, status, rank, power, etc… A futile and energy draining cycle.

QUESTION: Other then meditation, what are some ways to balance and center ourselves day to day?

RESPONSE: Focus on all you do have and all you have to be grateful for rather than what you think you do not have. Realize that all the context of the experience of life is a choice made by you and how you choose to interpret it in each moment.

Come to know and love the perfection that you are in this moment and the perfection for everything that is occurring in your life. Remember, it is not happening TO you but rather FOR you. Challenge the purpose of these occurrences until you come to love the rest of the world for the moment by moment perfection that it is…after all, it’s all there to support you on your never-ending journey……

QUESTION: Once we recognize our reality for what it really is, what is the next step?

RESPONSE: The next step is the same as it was before your discovery, you choose. Except this time you are creating with the knowledge and understanding of your unlimited ability to create life as you desire it to be. In addition to this you are creating from a new level of unconditional love for yourself and the world around you. Therefore, what you create generally alines with "serving" others in some way on the path to the same powerful & liberating understanding :-)

More coming soon...

The Real Key to Life's Wishing Well

"Ask and it shall be given you" or "Knock, and it shall be opened unto you" is the way it has been described in biblical text. "Ask, believe, recieve." is the more modern mantra for the hope of quick manifestation results. But what is the real essence behind life's law of attraction and creation?

Like many things in life, there are no shortcuts to this understanding. As much as it would be nice to just think positively and have things appear, there is a deeper required attention that needs to be paid to how the experience of life works. There is no better place to start this understanding than from the example of your own life. When you look around the room or place you are at right now, ask yourself, "How did you get to this exact place in your life right now with all of your current circumstances?"

What you will ultimately realize is that your current situation has come together out of the thousands of choices you have made. Choices that were based on what you thought you needed to do to fulfill your intent in each particular previous moment. You have created it all which means you will continue to create it all. The magic of manifesting is to become more aware in each moment of WHAT you are creating and HOW you are creating it. Just as every seed that has grown into something has been cultivated in some way with a certain amount of soil, water and sunlight to produce a certain result, your wishes and desires, which are your seeds, will need to be cultivated in a certain way for particular desired result as well.

The universe is not a one way hand out street. You have to work hand in hand with the universe in the process of manifestation. You have to demonstrate the faith and belief in who you are through the actions you take to make your wishes real. By cultivating your desires with a strong belief that it will happen, an honesty about where you are in the process of achieving it, and a persistent action towards your ultimate goal, you become your own Genie.

Yes you need to ask, yes you need to believe, but faith demonstrated through your actions is the most powerful energy there is, and it is your true key to the wishing well of your life.